
Money, accommodation, independence
Understandably, fears over money and where to live can keep you feeling trapped with a controlling or violent partner. It is never easy, but there are solutions. We will take you through the various options to re-establish your independence.
The resources below contain practical information for re-establishing independence in France: from finding housing, work, learning French, and even studying at university.
Perpetrators of domestic abuse purposely destroy their victims’ self-confidence and often leave survivors with debts, and without financial independence. Therefore it is completely understandable if you are feeling overwhelmed or even incapable of rebuilding your future alone. However, over time and step by step, it is absolutely possible to regain economic and social independence, and rebuild your self-confidence in the process.
Firstly and in the immediate, you can turn to emergency services for material support. Many are specialised in supporting women who have been confronted with domestic abuse.
You might also be able to receive financial assistance and social housing adapted to your personal situation. There are many professionals who can advise you and support you through the process, step by step.
Testimonials
I came to France for him. I left a very well paid job, where I felt valued and respected. When I arrived, I didn't speak a word of French. I couldn't find a job. At the time of the separation, he had blocked all my savings in a French account in his name. I had nothing left and I was really shocked to learn that the police couldn't do anything about it. In my country, this would have been considered economic violence, but since I learnt this economic abuse is legal in France! I never saw my money again. I had to start from scratch and take the first job I found to survive. Despite everything, three years later, I am proud of the progress made. I learned French, found a job in my field of expertise, I have great friends, and I can finally start saving again.
I met him when I arrived in France, and he quickly became violent with me. Each time, he promised not to do it again. I was here illegally, and he told me that I had no chance without him because of this. I didn't even know where to go. Looking back, I now realise that he was trying to make me dependent on him. I ended up making an appointment with an association that helped me understand that I was a victim of violence and they helped me with my papers.
Because of my disability, it is very difficult to find a job for me. After my breakup, I was in a very stressful financial situation. Fortunately, I met a social worker who informed me about the existing systems. Now, I receive financial aid every month and get support from Cap Emploi in my job search and I have signed up for dance classes where I have made friends.